I can’t believe we are already approaching Thanksgiving and Christmas! I feel like it was just the beginning of summer. Crazy! I love the spirit of the holidays though because family is everything and I think my family is pretty fun to be around. But being a single woman during this time can be difficult and it gets more and more difficult the older you get. The holidays really bring out a lot of different emotions.
The holiday season is a stark reminder that you are alone and single. Thank you to those holiday ads that encourage you to buy for that “special someone.” Or the awkward questions your relatives continue to ask you about your love life. But really it’s those awkward moments I wish I could laugh about and share with someone else.
Don’t get me wrong, I like having the freedom of coming and going as I please, but it’s hard to avoid the fact that everyone is coupled up during the holidays. I tend to feel like the oddball at most family functions. The holidays make that very apparent as my sisters have significant others and most of my family members are married or in relationships. We play a lot of games during the holidays so it kind of sucks when I’m the one who causes the numbers to be uneven. Ha.
It also wouldn’t be the holidays without a family member asking why you’re still single or suggesting you try a dating site or telling you that you just have to put yourself out there or my favorite…reminding you that your clock is ticking. Buzzfeed actually produced a video that really captures what it’s like to be single during the holidays. It’s hilariously accurate.
I think the worst part about being single during the holidays is that it gets kind of lonely. It seems like family holiday events start to dwindle down as you get older, because everyone has somewhere else to be. It could be work or going to a significant other’s side of the family, but it still seems like I’m usually left behind. It would be nice to start new holiday traditions with a significant other.
So the holidays can be difficult and lonely, but there are some advantages to being single during these times. First of all, it looks and sounds exhausting running around to a ton of different family events to accommodate your own family and your significant other’s family. No thank you. I’ll just sit back and relax in one warm, cozy house.
The second one is gift giving. I actually do love giving gifts and I miss this part, even though we do still draw names. But in reality I save a ton of money because I don’t have to worry about purchasing gifts for a significant other, their family, and mine. I can spoil my nieces and nephews with loud toys and walk away. HA!
The next advantage is about relaxation and comfort. You can sleep in or sleep all day, watch an abundance of tv and movies (Love, Actually and Elf on repeat), and wear whatever you want! Bring on the sweats! You don’t have to worry about dressing to impress, because you’re family accepts you just the way you are.
So if you know single women during the holidays, please understand it isn’t that they’re not grateful for their wonderful friends or that their family isn’t around. It’s just that at the end of the night we go home alone and it would be nice to experience all the holiday goodness with a special someone.
It’s healthy to be honest about these emotions as the holidays approach. That way you can prepare and make a plan. It’s easy to get lost in these feelings, but remember the reason for the season. It’s a time to be grateful. I’m grateful I have family and the best part is that they’re not going anywhere.
So give thanks for the things you do have in your life and don’t settle for less than you deserve. Being single during the holidays can be a great time for reflection and relaxation. I’m not going to let it get the best of me. It’s time to cherish the time I do get with family, because perhaps my future holidays might just get busier with a family of my own one day.